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How to Choose a Partner
Series: The School of Life
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Ideal for individuals seeking thoughtful advice on relationships and self-growth, as well as readers interested in modern social dynamics and the psychology of partnership.
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See moreAn insightful guide to choosing the partner who's right for you.
An insightful guide to choosing the partner who's right for you.
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Choosing a romantic partner is one of contemporary life's biggest adventures. However, other aspects of modern living—being globally more mobile, a fall in religious belief, social liberalisation, and more job opportunities (but longer working hours)—mean meeting a mate has rarely been so challenging, and rarely so important.
In How to Choose a Partner, Susan Quilliam guides us through the process of finding the right partner for us as individuals. The real challenge is that we grow. Drawing upon rich cultural material, psychology, and her background in relationship therapy, Susan presents partner choice as a self-development journey, driving us to learn more about ourselves, about other people, about life, and the way we want to live.
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"The School of Life is dedicated to making our lives clearer, less puzzling and more enjoyable—by studying the big themes of life with the help of culture. This new series of self-help books continues to reinvent the genre, making it into something more serious, profound and genuinely helpful." — Alain de Botton
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Alain de Botton praises this guide as part of The School of Life series, highlighting its serious, profound, and genuinely helpful approach to navigating life's big themes with cultural and psychological depth.
Book Details
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ISBN: 9781447293293
Publisher: Pan Macmillan
Format: Paperback / softback
Date Published: 14 January 2016
Country: United Kingdom
Imprint: Macmillan
Audience: General / adult
DIMENSIONS
Spine width: 11.0mm
Width: 129.0mm
Height: 177.0mm
Weight: 108g
Pages: 160
About the Author
Susan Quilliam is a relationship psychologist, coach and agony aunt. She is the author of twenty-one books and is a regular media expert on the subject of sex and relationships.
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