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Dating Radar

Why Your Brain Says Yes to "The One" Who Will Make Your Life Hell
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Dating Radar reveals why attraction and compatibility often mislead us into committing to the wrong partner. Drawing on expertise in high-conflict personalities and complicated relationships, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter offer tools to identify warning signs of toxic traits, understand how deception can cloud your judgement, and recognise your own blind spots. This guide helps you see beyond the initial spark of love to protect yourself from harmful relationships.
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This book is ideal for anyone navigating the dating world who wants to avoid repeating past mistakes and build healthier relationships. It particularly suits readers interested in psychology, relationship dynamics, and conflict resolution.

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Two experts in high-conflict relationships teach readers to use "dating radar" to identify and avoid mates who will create misery.

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Why do so many of us commit to the wrong person? Most believe that attraction and compatibility are the keys to relationship success when, in reality, these are red flags in 15-20% of the population. When it comes to love, the brain is irrational and shortsighted. We make decisions based on incomplete information, biased understanding, and strong emotion. Love truly is blind.

That's why you need Dating Radar; it gives you a way to detect hazards you might otherwise miss by recognising:

1. Warning signs of certain personalities that can spell love relationship danger.

2. Ways that they can jam your radar (deceive you).

3. Where your own blind spots might be.

Attorney, mediator, and social worker Bill Eddy and relationship expert Megan Hunter use their expertise in high-conflict personalities, complicated relationships, and divorce to equip readers to see through the blinding spark of new love and spot potential toxic relationships before it is too late!

If hindsight is 20/20, dating radar is x-ray vision.

Bill Eddy is an award-winning author and president of High Conflict Institute. Megan Hunter is a publisher, author, speaker, and the founder of Unhooked Media.

Book Details

INFORMATION

ISBN: 9781936268122

Publisher: HCI Press

Format: Paperback / softback

Date Published: 05 October 2017

Country: United States

Imprint: HCI Press

Illustration: Charts

Audience: General / adult

DIMENSIONS

Width: 139.0mm

Height: 215.0mm

Weight: 250g

Pages: 238

About the Author

Bill Eddy is an award-winning author, lawyer, therapist, mediator and the President of High Conflict Institute. He developed the "High Conflict Personality" theory (HCP Theory) and is an international expert on managing high-conflict disputes.

As an attorney, Bill is a Certified Family Law Specialist in California and the Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. Prior to becoming an attorney in 1992, he was a Licensed Clinical Social worker with twelve years' experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. He has taught Negotiation and Mediation at the University of San Diego School of Law for six years and he is on the part-time faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law and the National Judicial College.

Megan Hunter , MBA, is an author, speaker, and expert on high-conflict disputes and complicated relationships. She is CEO of Unhooked Media, a U.S.-based media company focused on relationship and conflict revolution through print, digital and the spoken word. She is publisher at High Conflict Institute Press and its imprint Unhooked Books and co-founder of the High Conflict Institute. She is a frequent guest on Sirius XM Satellite's The Doctor Show (psychiatry) with Dr. Michael Aronoff.

Megan trains legal, mental health, business, leadership groups, universities and other professionals across the U.S., Canada and Australia. She has strong policy and judicial training experience during her tenure at the Arizona Supreme Court and as a member of the Arizona Board of Psychologist Examiners. She currently serves on the Advisory Board of the Personality Disorder Awareness Network.



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